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7 COMMON FEARS AND HOW TO OVERCOME THEM

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From experience working with woman, ( and myself) we would all LOVE to have a fairy godmother come into our wardrobes, sprinkle some fairy dust and create a wardrobe that contains the right amount of clothes for us, in the right colours and shapes, making all sense together for our personal style and lifestyle so we can get excited every morning when we get dressed, feeling not only great in our clothes, but powerful too.


There are a lot of professionals out there nowadays who can do just that, but there are a few reasons that stop us from having one coming into our life/ wardrobe. Here are some common reasons I have seen:


Por experiencia trabajando con chicas, ( y por mí misma) a todas nos gustaría tener un hada madrina que venga a nuestro armario, eche un poco de polvos mágicos y cree un armario que nos pegue con nuestro estilo de vida, que tenga la cantidad correcta de ropa, en los colores y formas correctos y que lo usemos para nuestro estilo de vida concreto. Y cada mañana, al vestirnos, nos sintamos no sólo genial, sino también, por qué no, poderosas.


Hoy en día hay un montón de profesionales que pueden hacer eso exactamente, pero hay varias razones que nos frenan, y aquí van algunas de las más comunes que yo veo:


1- I AM GOING TO GET COMPLETLY CHANGED

The main fear I see, is woman thinking I am going to come and create a whole new style for that person, that is going to end up making the person not recognise themselves.

Far from the truth.

Sure, I have a vision for your full potential and a collection for your wardrobe, but it needs to feel like YOU, no one else.

By asking lots and lots of questions, I get lot of information from girls I work with, which tell me what they will feel comfortable with, and what they will not. I do push your boundaries, yes, but I will never push a style on someone. My aim is to elevate your style or find you one that suits you, not change you to go out of the door and feel you are going to a costume party because the outfit does not feel like you.


1- ME VAN A CAMBIAR COMPLETAMENTE

Este tiene que ser el número uno de las preocupaciones. Las chicas tienen un miedo inicial de que voy a ponerles un nuevo estilo que les va a hacer sentirse disfrazadas o no reconocerse a sí mismas.

Nada más lejos de la realidad.

Si que es cierto que tengo una visión de cómo podría ser tu estilo con mayor potencial y crearé una colección para tu armario, pero siempre tienes que sentirte tú misma, nadie más.

Haciendo un montón de preguntas, y recogiendo mucha información sobre ti, consigo ver en qué estarías cómoda, en qué no, y cuales son los límites que no puedo atravesar ( aunque lo intente ;P).

Mi propósito es elevar tu estilo, o encontrarte uno que te favorezca, no cambiarte para que te sientas incómoda al salir de casa.


2- I HAVE TO SPEND A LOT OF MONEY

A common worry. The answer is: NO with my method. The beauty of My packages ( coming soon) is that you have your MAP ( Master, Action, Potential) Master plan of your wardrobe, Action by knowing what to shop and having reached your full Potential learning on the way how to buy in terms of what your style would be and the pieces to go for, including in what colours and shapes. A wardrobe is a process, so you can buy slowly as much as you want, or as little as you want over time, depending on your budget.

Not everyone can afford to buy a whole new wardrobe at once. Plus I don't recommend it either, as you can get overwhelmed really fast.


2- TENGO QUE GASTARME UN MONTÓN DE DINERO.

Otra preocupación común. La respuesta simple es: Claro que no. Con mi método. Lo bueno de mis servicios ( que van a cambiar en breve) es que yo creo un MAPA para ti, un resumen de las palabras: Master plan, Acción, Potencial y Aprendizaje. Hacemos un master plan de cual sería tu estilo, lo llevamos a la acción comprando sólo lo necesario, alcanzando así tu máximo potencial, y aprendiendo en el camino cómo crear tu colección para que en el futuro sigas creando.

Esto es un proceso, así que puedes comprar tanto como quieras, o teniendo tu MAPA, ya estás planificada para comprar lo que necesitas acorde con tu presupuesto y cuando tú puedas.





3- I AM GONIG TO END UP WITH TOO MANY CLOTHES

A common misconception is that by having someone helping you, you are somehow going to end up like an influencer's wardrobe, those you see on YouTube or instagram. Huge wardrobes!

Let's just stop here, chances are you are not buying clothes all the time to show online, that is not your job, so precisely a huge amount of clothes is what makes us not use them all, and makes us be overwhelmed when getting dressed. If you have less, you see more. The beauty of my methods is that I teach you how to buy better, that is all the secret, and you just have the right stuff in your wardrobe.


3- VOY A ACABAR CON UN ARMARIO ENORME LLENO DE MUCHÍSIMA ROPA

La moda no es ahora mismo tener un armario de influencer como muestra internet.

Lo que esta de moda, es crear un armario más pequeńo, que puedas manejar. A menos que seas una influencer y entonces enseñas ropa todo el rato en internet. Pero supongamos que no es tu caso.

Una cantidad enorme de ropa es lo que precisamente hace que no la usemos toda, que nos agobiemos por la mañana al vestirnos. Tener menos te hace ver más, es decir, te hace ser más creativa.

Lo bueno de mis métodos es que te enseñan en cómo comprar mejor, y tendrás las prendas correctas en tu armario.





4- I DON'T WANT TO LOOK OLDER

I have seen this in repeated occasions, and I was surprised of this statement, but it totally makes sense. Some clothes do in fact, make us look older, but others actually make us look as if we are trying to get away with a younger look that does not belong us any more.


To get the right balance, you need someone external. I am all for looking fresh and modern, and I will always point out the items that make a girl look older, in order to discard them ( if that is what you want)

I say this because believe it or not, I have worked with some professionals, that naturally, are too young looking and by wanting to be taken seriously in the workplace, they needed to have a more mature look.


4- VOY A PARECER MÁS MAYOR

Al principio me sorprendía este miedo, pero tiene todo el sentido. Hay ropa que nos hace parecer mayor, pero también hay ropa en la que parece que intentamos ser más joven de la manera incorrecta.

Para tener un balance y pillar el punto correcto, sí que necesitas alguien externo. A mi me encanta darle frescura a armarios y siempre identifico las prendas que hacen más mayor a esa persona, por tanto, evitándolas. Puede haber casos sin embargo, que por motivos de cierto trabajo, me pidieron un estilo más madura, en una chica que naturalmente, siempre parecía más joven de lo que era.


5- I AM NOT GOING TO RECOGNIZE MYSELF.

Let's go around point 1. The thing that surprises people the most when having a Wardrobe breakthrough is finding a style that they would have not though of, yet they feel themselves in it, AND it actually goes with the rest of their wardrobe.

So by selecting the pieces in your own wardrobe that will be the base for a new elevated style, you find yourselves with a new elevated YOU.

In most cases I see all we need is freshness in style and wardrobe, and that is difficult to see if you see your clothes everyday, that's why is good to have someone external do the job for you.


5- NO ME VOY A RECONOCER A MI MISMA

Volvamos al punto 1. Lo que sorprende más a las chicas cuando tienen el Wardrobe Breakthrough, es encontrarse así mismas con un estilo del que nunca ser les hubiera ocurrido, en cambio ven que les pega, y que se sienten que pueden llevarlo perfectamente. Y es más, que pueden usar ropa que ya tienen.

Así que, seleccionando piezas de tu propio armario que serán la base para tu estilo más elevado, te encuentras más potenciada tu misma.

En la mayoría de los casos, solo necesitamos un poco de frescura, y eso es difícil de ver una misma si ves tu ropa todos los días, alguien externo es imprescindible.



6- I AM GOING TO END UP WITH A MINIMALIST STYLE

This reason is so common and I will explain you why. Because we get bombarded by magazines and internet about the perfect "capsule wardrobe" and the classic pieces you should have every season. It gets really boring. Everyone does not suit that style, or those neutral colours and shapes, plus you risk to get really really bored with your own clothes, which in turn, it will make you buy even more until you think you get it right.

I create a collection based on a Style concept, even if it's an elaborated style, not minimal.

Don't you ever worry that is going to happen to you, that will be a huge mistake...on my part to put you on those clothes.


6- VOY A ACABAR CON UN ESTILO MINIMALISTA

Esta razón es común y te explico el por qué. Porque nos bombardean las revistas con la idea de el armario cápsula perfecto y las piezas básicas que deberías incluir cada temporada.

Esto puede ser bastante aburrido. No a todo el mundo le quedan bien los clásicos, ni esos colores neutrales. Y además corres el riesgo de aburrirte con la ropa, lo que te hace comprar más hasta que creas que tienes la ropa correcta, sensación que a veces, nunca llega.

No te preocupes nunca más de que eso vaya a pasar, sería de hecho, un error...de mi parte, dejar que eso pasara cuando no es tu estilo.




7- THEY ARE GOING TO MAKE THE THROW STUFF AWAY

Sentimental reasons are really a reason to keep items, everyone does it. There is something about attachment to some clothes, that even if they don't suit us in shape, colour, lifestyle or style itself, we hang on to them. I see this a lot. Ie: if your mum or your friend gave you that jumper.


There is a sentimental value to it, but also a money value to it. This is really hard to let go, until you realise that if it was a gift, search the reason WHY you want to hold on to it, as by wearing the item, you are caring about the person that gifted to you, but not about yourself, by wearing something that is not really you.

In the case that it cost you a lot of money at the time, the money is gone, and you are not going to recuperate it any more by wearing something that does not suit you, because again, you are not going to feel your greatest self. It's all about abundance, in yourself.


Having said both of those explanations, you don't need to get rid of clothes with sentimental value, you just don't wear them and put them in a part of the house where you can actually admire them.

In the case of money well spend, we always find a way to wear it first, and then discard it if not possible .



7- ME VAN A HACER QUE ME DESHAGA DE COSAS Y NO QUIERO.

Razones sentimentales son una gran parte de quedarnos con ropa. Hay algo sobre el apego que nos hace quedarnos con cosas que nos han regalado porque nos da pena no ponérnosla.

Por ejemplo, si tu amiga o tu madre te regaló una prenda que era suya.


Aunque no te quede bien del todo, no sea tu mejor color o tu estilo, nos cuesta no ponérnosla.

A parte del valor sentimental, también esta el valor del dinero, que es muy difícil dejar marchar.

En el caso sentimental, mira a ver cuál es la razón del apego a esa prenda, ya que estás pensando en la persona que te lo dio ( qué pena) pero no realmente en ti misma, si es que no te favorece nada.

En temas económicos, el dinero se perdió y ya no lo recuperarás si te pones algo que no te gusta realmente, o no te hace favores.

En ambos casos, no hay que deshacerse de nada, si no mirar dónde lo tenemos que poner, para que tenga su lugar correcto.



Any other fears I have not mentioned? Share it with me in the comments!


Hay alguna miedo más que no he mencionado que te frena a tener un Wardrobe Breakthrough? ( descubrimiento de armario) Compártela conmigo en los comentarios


Raquel

 
 

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